My husband and I were recently on a mini getaway in Banff (physically distancing, of course). I’m talking sun beaming, heat pumping, trees swaying kind of trip. Have you been?
A little about my husband...he’s adventurous. He will try anything not just once but twice. It’s not about me convincing him it’s about him convincing me.
He loves trail riding. I like trail riding and I enjoy doing it with him. Truth is - I do it scared. Some of the paths and angles have sharp drops. And I don’t categorize rolling off of my bike to inadvertently test the quality of my safety gear as “fun”.
I almost stayed on my bike but then I fell. Falling to the left would land me in bushes. A trip to the right would have me two feet off the edge onto some rocky sand, muddy edge water and a big rock. I "chose" to go to the right because...I had no choice! I saw the rock, protected my head and landed two feet below in some muddy water.
That’s why I like trail riding and don’t love it as my husband does. I’m still building my skills and one wrong move could end with an undesirable outcome. But it didn’t. I got up, checked for cuts, washed the mud off of my entire right side and got back on my bike without second thought.
I had such a realization after my tumble! I had been working on consistently not allowing life’s events slow me down. I always get back up but I’ve been working at getting back up consistently faster. It’s part of me building my resilience. The quick mental and emotional processing leading to a quick recovery showed me that the deliberate and conscious action I am taking is working. I could have stayed there, felt embarrassed and sorry for myself but what’s the point?
The same applies to you my fierce friends. Consistent action is key. In what areas are you looking to succeed? What does success look like to you? And what steps have you taken to achieve it?
Take one step forward and do it consistently.
I was chatting with a friend the other day who’s experiencing some challenges at work. They have a family with young children, a partner with a demanding job, and all of the other pieces that life has in store for us (like stress, home responsibilities, little time for play). To try to make life a little easier for themselves, they asked their boss for flexibility with their work schedule.
Their request was denied!
My friend was devastated. They tried another option with their boss and were denied again. Things weren’t looking up for them. They quickly became stuck in a negative headspace wondering what was wrong with their boss, their workplace, and the organization.
We’ve all been there but you and I know that’s not a headspace that’s going to move us forward. (Easy to see that when it’s not about us.)
I don’t know about you, fierce friends, but I’ve had my friends for decades and I’d give the shirt off of my back to them. I asked and they accepted my offer to coach them.
We had a productive conversation. You know what their big A-HA! moment was? They realized the universe had been speaking to them for over a year about moving on. Oh my! Have they been ignoring what they’ve been hearing and getting nudged towards doing this whole time? My soul sank. My friend is a smart, beautiful human being yet they weren’t walking towards their destiny.
Fierce friend, don’t let that be you. As scared as you might be, listen to what you’re supposed to be receiving and lean into it even just a little, and then a little more, and then a little more!
Ignoring the signals will keep you right where you’re at, and like I’ve said, there’s abundance out there for those brave enough to take it.
Do you ever have one of those grandiose dreams? I mean the ones that make you ask yourself, “How in the heck am I going to achieve that?” I had one. I wondered how in the heck I was going to create space to develop a vision, put together a business plan and execute on it all while working a full time job, music lessons, taking care of my mental, physical and spiritual self, and nourishing my marriage. What was I thinking?!
I know that playing small or big is a state of mind. If you want to play small then you’re likely to keep thinking how I was thinking. If playing big is more of what you aspire to do in any area of your life, then it’s time you start thinking that way. Sometimes we restrict ourselves because we think there isn’t enough to go around. You need to remember that there is abundance available to you if you want it.
Let’s say looking to play big in your career means moving into that next level which may be the C-suite or Minister’s Office or starting your own entrepreneurial adventure you’ve been dreaming of. And now let’s say that dream job is offered to you. Are you ready for it? Have you put the pieces in place to be able to thrive in it?
If you want to play big you have to be prepared to receive the windfall:
Sometimes we’re fearful because we don’t think we can win, have what it takes, or have the grit to do what needs to be done to be successful. That’s a lie unless you believe it to be true.
Think about what you really want. Write it down (Yes! Even the wildest thoughts!). Take one action towards it today.
There is abundance available to you. How big will you cut your piece of the pie?